Making changes at a subconscious level is one key to overcoming anxiety, panic attacks and phobias. One way to do this is to think about what you actually think you can achieve. There is little point in trying to achieve something that you don’t think is possible. If you try to do that you are likely to tackle anxiety causing situations with an attitude which is self-sabotaging.
It’s important to believe in success and the easiest way to believe in it is to see it. I would suggest that you ignore the process and concentrate on the end result. For example, don’t think too much about a process of graded exposure, although you may well go through it, instead see yourself doing the things you want to do and enjoying them. Actually go inside the body of the future you and feel how it feels to do them.
If you find this uncomfortable start to question yourself. If it feels wrong to enjoy flying without anxiety then start to make a note of what exactly you feel. This can provide important clues when tackling the very heart of your fears. You may well feel that you don’t deserve it, or that you are under physical danger. You may discover a slight social phobia you didn’t realise you had. Whatever you find, give it your attention, meditate about it, write about it. You may well find that you can start to erode your anxiety from the inside.
By doing this you will increase your motivation to beat what ever devils you struggle with, and you may well learn something about yourself along the way.
