Comments on: Anxiety, impotence, Male Sexual Health and Performance

By: erectine

erectine — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 08:05:50 +0000

I also had a problem with impotence and was unable to perform. I discovered that anxiety and stress at work were my problems. I found a few herbal male impotence treatments online and they worked great. I don’t take them as much anymore as exercise and a better diet, I’m sure also helped.

By: Admin

Admin — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 00:02:00 +0000

I have added a post to this blog which answers the points raised in the last comment. To read that post please click here: Relationship Anxiety.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 09:56:00 +0000

I think this is what is happening with my new boyfriend. We seem to get on really well and are very close emotionally. We spend hours kissing passionately and whenever we’re in public, even steal passionate kisses whenever we can (like teenagers!), but the few times we’ve slept together, he’s said he “isn’t ready yet.”

He tells me he finds me extremely attractive, etc, but that he’s afraid he isn’t able “to give or receive love.” He’s afraid sex would make the relationship “official” and that he might not be ready for the “responsibility” or loss of freedom, although he says he doesn’t want to date other women.

He’s also expressed anxiety about performance. I try to reassure him, but his anxiety levels appear to remain high. We’re both about 50 and have both had long relationships and marriages. This is the first rel. since his marriage.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 00:58:00 +0000

You are wonderful for making the effort to understanding your boyfriend's problem.
Reassurance plays a very important role in achieving a resolution. More importantly the way and manner it is offered.
Dont patronise.
Gently initiate the dicussion and quickly make it clear that you are in this together with him to achieve a good result. Add humor "I will require a exclusive ownership of you-know what till ...... the soonest we get this resolved"
You have to be prepared to sacrifice your immediate sexual gratification to work with him.
Tell him of other non coital, ways of pleasing you, so he knows that he is doing something that you enjoy. This will eliminate guilt feeling.
Show him resource materials that lets him know he is not alone. That a lot of other men have the same problem,
Professional counselling is always a good option.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 04:46:00 +0000

I’m a girl in late twenties. I’m a long-term relationship with a guy mid thirties. I think he may have performance anxiety. He spoke to me about how he feels – which wasn’t an easy task as he explained it was embarassing.It’s been almost 5 months since we’ve had sex. I can barely get close enough to attempt. What bothers me even more is that my sex drive is at a peak and has been for a while. Needless to say I’m very frustrated, sometimes mad at him. Yet, I’m here trying to understand some of the feelings associated with performance anxiety. He’s told me this decrease in sex all together has happened in other relationships and thats when he moves on. So, anyway, I’m just very sad and I don’t know what to do.
I’m on the verge of proposing that we see a sex therapist. I’m much more open to the idea (i’m a psych student), but i’m afraid he isn’t. I also think medication would offend him.
Such a sensitive issues, do i talk about it some more or will that add more pressure to his anxiety?
sad sexless gf